End of Life Companion

“The Art of medicine takes over, when science can no longer help” -Hospice care

Dr.Ciscely Saunders, one of the founders of Hospice care, she was recently in her mission and achieved a Doctorates for her mission to be respected and recognized

          At the vulnerable milestones of birth and death, a ring of support is formed to honor souls’ transition. It is fascinating even liberating to ethically explore and appreciate the different processes in which cultures exercise the customs surrounding death. In America there was a group of physicians and psychologist advocates that pressured the U.S Government to make Medicare include Hospice care in 1978.  At the time creating this new health system was re-inventive and had a price tag of billions.  Imagine our elders being neglected in hospital hallways with no specific wing to shelter people on their last important journey/transition before the inclusion of death care into healthcare.

At the End of Life it is your right to live and die as they want!

 What an immense weight lifted for us to create support to fall on. After all, no day is guaranteed. Today, End of Life Care is in need of a new reset with normalizing hiring an End of Life Companion/Doulas to meet the increasing needs End of Life demands to fulfill a dignified death. Everyday we are closer to becoming an ancestor.

Give the power of intention to the rituals which will mark our final transition.  We only have the chance to navigate this path once, ensure that all your strings are tied so your loved ones can have the immediate space to grieve.  If you have the means, meet an End of Life Companion at your final horizon.  You gain a guide through the many resources and options to make the most informed decisions and invest in a meaningful and gentle way to process all the facets needed to navigate our final journey/transition..

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“Consider that love can only be as large, as grief demands… That grief is the growing up of the heart that burst boundaries like the old skin of a finished life.” ”-A.D.Brown

It Doesnʻt Matter how short a life is, It will cost you a lifetime of grief

The bitter alchemy of love to grief

Once deceased

Mark us in the

Present, to be loved

as Love presently!

-Camille Dee ʻ20

Children haunted by grief will need a lot of Play space to metabolize grief, contrasting to adult needs ranging sporadically between isolation and over-stimulation.  

It is normal to Grieve members of our community that we arenʻt directly close to yet something about their story reflects in us an inescapable truth;It is valid to grieve. We must process and release somatically. Going through a labyrinth whether in person or on paper while meditating on our pain has been noted in studies to calm our nervous system.

Reading signs between Preparatory Grief for an anticipated death & Grief after passing versus Depression is pivotal to protect our loved ones from avoidable pitfalls.  Creating a space for people at the end of life to be honest about their pain and self-determine how much pain they are willing to tolerate to live longer and pass with dignity.

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Complicated grief occurs when a life is taken unexpectedly, or if our grief is disrupted by the nature of your relationship with the deceased.  Managing complicated grief  often requires an immense amount of emotional weight  to cope with alone. Seeking group support therapy significantly decreases the isolation and nervous system shock people experience with complicated grief. 

Grief is our companion in life when our loved (Love) ones die. I say Love in the present tense because their love is current. It lives on through the perpetuation of you and your customs of love that honor their memory! We only learn better how to surf the sets of waves grief brings each swell…day by day, Moment by moment.

In Final Gifts: Understanding the Special Awareness, Needs, and Communications of the Dying by Maggie Calland and Patricia Kelley I learned that seeming like you are indifferent to death is more painful than saying the wrong thing. Opening up safe space to Listen with people experiencing loss severing the looming fear of never speaking about our passed love ones ever again.

 Dying people give many different kinds of signals when they are moving closer to depart this shell.  Some on this Journey find they need permission,Forgiveness, and sometimes solitude to pass on. Confusion is often diagnosed to people when they are actually trying to communicate through their dreams, visuals or dialogs that are repetitive and distressful

In Death, there are gifts of power and Grace. We just need to be curious of the Pain, whether Spiritual, or emotional that needs to be faced, also the guilt for what we did or how we identity with that shame comes to teach us one final lesson.  Seeing the gifts we find through death is the rain we need to restore our garden of life. This is the work…